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Friday, August 22, 2014

The Silver Lining

I’m pretty sure that in life, when we look back, we’ll see the silver lining that sometimes evaded us. But, life is good, and often in retrospect things make a little bit more sense. 

I’ve thought a lot about this lately as we’ve embarked on a new adventure, started blogging again, and as new friends have commented on old blog posts here and there. 

In particular, I’ve thought about buying our home, our road to medical school, and the loss of my second pregnancy last winter. All three have been crazy, emotional whirlwinds. They were trails and blessings. They are all gifts for which I am grateful. Each of them reminds me of my favorite scripture from the Book of Mormon:

Alma 26:12 "Yea, I know that I am nothing; as to my strength I am weak; therefore I will not boast of myself, but I will boast of my God, for in his strength I can do all things; yea, behold, many mighty miracles we have wrought in this land, for which we will praise his name forever.”

Through God the Father and His Son, Jesus Christ, we can do anything. He truly lifts us up. 

Acknowledging the blessings that come through trials is often one of the ways I recognize the hand of The Lord in our lives and grow in the realization that I am weak. This is especially true now.

Two and a half years ago when we debated about buying a house it was frustrating, exciting, exasperating, and thrilling all at the same time. We didn't want to move AGAIN, but were excited about the prospect of earning equity while we prepared for med school. 

Looking back it is one of the many miracles. We had no idea when we purchased our home that it would be a small source of income to us during the transition from two incomes to none. We are grateful. 

In addition to our home, the path to medical school has been challenging yet rewarding. We experienced the excitement of secondaries and interviews as well as the frustration of rejection and waitlists, but looking back, it has been right for us. I will have the opportunity (because of Visa laws) to be a stay-at-home mom which is both incredibly exciting and positively nerve wrecking. I have the opportunity to serve Ryan as he prepares to be a physician and provide for our futures. I have a lot of emotions about leaving my career, but have learned so much over the past ten years about who I am, who I want to be, and the abilities that make me unique. (Who knew that after four years at BYU, I would decide to start my won consulting firm!? More on that to come…) Looking back, our road to medical school has been one of the many miracles. We are grateful. 

Finally, in retrospect, we look back on the loss of my second pregnancy as a beautiful growing point in our relationship together, as a family, and with our Savior. I recently re-read my post about it, and it’s incredible to see how the hand of the Lord is ever present in our lives. He knew that we wanted to know we could have another baby, but that it wasn’t the right time for that little spirit. And we are grateful that He knew better. We were already crazed in July. I cannot. imagine. what life would have been like with the a newborn and trying to recover while moving, sending Ryan off, finishing up my job, etc. We aren’t worried about infertility, we know that when the time is right we will be blessed with more children—I think heading to Grenada with one is just fine. She’s seriously the best thing that has ever happened to us. Looking back, this has been one of the many miracles, and we are grateful. 

Ryan has been in Grenada alone for 22 days. It has been challenging, but we have consecrated ourselves to this path to medicine and have chosen an attitude of gratitude. We know it is not an easy path and not for the faint at heart. We have been richly blessed to be where we are and want to make sure that we acknowledge the silver lining as it happens. 

Life is good. 

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Blessings Through Adversity

Ugh, how do I even get these thoughts and words down?! The emotional and physical toll of this week are incredibly draining and it doesn't help that I'm now awake in the middle of the night due to abdominal pain. 

Monday. It all started Monday. 

Around 1:00am or 2:00am on Monday morning I woke up with slight discomfort, meunstral-cramp like pain. But really, no big deal--I should mention at this point that I was 12 weeks 2 days pregnant and oh so excited about this little bun in the oven--I googled and everything I read said that it was perfectly normal as long as there wasn't any blood. 

Monday we were all sick, so we went to the Doctor and come to find out Ryan and I both had sinus infections (darn pregnancy, I've only ever had two--one with Adi and one now). I mentioned the cramps and the doctor asked if I had had any bleeding. No? No big deal. 

I did have a moment when I offered a prayer to Heavenly Father asking that the pregnancy go full term, but that if it didn't that I might have the courage to understand His will. 

I went back to sleep and the day went on... We spent most of the day at my parents' and I was so thrilled when three friends texted to wish us congratulations! (We had waited to tell our family until Cheistmas and then went out our card that said "Ryan, McKenzie, Adrielle & Baby".) it was fun to chat with them a little about how excited we were. The day was pretty relaxed and then I needed to take Adi to gymnastics so we ran quickly, watched Adi, returned some books to the library, and headed back to my parents'. 

I was watching Downton Abbey online when Adi called from the bathroom that she needed help. I jumped up, went to help and when I stood back up in the bathroom, GUSH! 

For a fraction of a second I thought I'd peed my pants, but there was so much liquid that I realized almost instantly that my water had broken. 

I frantically yelled for Ryan and tried to usher Adi out of the bathroom, at this point in a little shock. 

The shock continued when I realized that not only had my water broken, but that I had actually miscarried the baby.

Oh my goodness, what?!

That's when the heavy, heavy bleeding started. I shed a few quick tears of panic, shock, and sadness, but there wasn't really time to cry and I honestly didn't want or need to.

My sweet husband and mom helped me get situated to head home and my mom suggested a blessing--what a neat, neat experience to have Ryan, my dad, and my little brother, Austin, there to give me a blessing of comfort.

My rational brain had been pulling it's fair share, but at the onset of the blessing, it went into high gear. 

We made it home after a quick stop at Wal-Mart and after taking care of a few things went home. 

I shed a few more tears, but I was so emotionally overloaded that the roller coaster never really settled on "sadness". 

I called a few close friends and my sister-in-law to share the news--really doing well and very much at peace with it. I was grateful I had had a few precursory thoughts in the middle of the night and that fervent prayer that I offered in the forefront of my mind. 

It wasn't until we were getting ready to go to sleep that Ryan mentioned how sad he was. 

How could I have been so selfish?! It wasn't just my loss, it was our loss. We talked a little about the sadness, but my left brain was still in full command. 

It wasn't until I woke up in the middle of the night when the loss hit me again when I woke up that I realized the true sadness, but even then remembering the loss was the sad part and my left brain did its thing. 

Tuesday we woke up bright and early and drive to Centerville so Erin could do my hair. Family pictures were at 12:00, so there wasn't a lot of time. Ryan went out in search of black pants for Adi while Adi played with her cousins. 

After all was said and done, I looked pretty awesome for pictures only hours after having lost the baby and was doing well. It was easy to smile for pictures because I was there with Ryan and Adi--they are my everything. 




After pictures things started going downhill. Lunch was fine, but I wanted to be alone and planning for the cabin the next day was kind of challenging. People kept prodding me to go to the doctor--and mind you it was a holiday. Finally I agreed to go to an InstaCare  only to be referred to the ER because they didn't have the necessary resources.

So there we found ourselves... In the ER on New Year's Eve. Could I say "Good Riddance" to 2013 any. more. gracefully. 

The ER sucked, yet as much as I didn't like it, I felt safe. Some people don't like hospitals and I am exactly the opposite. 

If I weren't so afraid of failing (chemistry and such) I might go into healthcare.

After a few hours and being triaged last (three ambulances had come in right after I met with the doctor) we met with the financial consultant. Even with insurance, I maxed out my credit card on the coinsurance, but got a 20% discount for paying upfront. Joy. 

After a quick trip to Grandpa's house, we headed back to Provo so we could sleep and pack for the cabin. Unfortunately that was futile as the car died mid-drive on I15 at 1300 south. Died. Battery. No lights. Luckily the breaks worked and we frantically called Ryan's dad to see if they could come get us. But seriously though?!

A passerby helped us jump the car and we were able to get it back to grandpa's. Ryan, his uncle, and brother messed around with the car and were able to give it a little more life--let's hope it's still actually worth something when all is said and done. 

While Ryan worked on the car, I stayed inside with Grandpa and the New Year's crowd, and naturally my luck didn't improve as my sweet, sick niece threw up all over me. 

Let's just say between my sister-in-law, father-in-law, and me, we decided NOT to go to the cabin. 

Instead, we stayed in Farmington, although truthfully I didn't have much of a choice. I felt trapped without my own space, and to top it off, I left my phone at Grandpa's which meant that I didn't have access to the support I really wanted

Happy New Year. 

Throughout it all, I could see the positives--everything could be much worse. At this point I was exhausted and considering I had watched New Year's roll around hour after hour on CNN in the ER, I figured staying up to 12 was pointless. 

Bring on 2014.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Baby Namin' Skills

I know it's insanely premature to be thinking about baby names, but we are. And we have been for the past three days.

And guess what!? We're so good, we've narrowed it down to four boy names and one girl name. (Truth be told, we both think it's a boy, and have thought we'd have a boy next for a while. And full disclosure, all of these were already thought of and on our 'list'.)

Want to hear the names? Wanna? Wanna? Wanna? 

Maxwell, Bennett, Pierce, and Anderson. 

And Penelope. 

I'm writing this months before we tell people, so we will have decided before this is posted, so I don't have to worry about the infamous criticism about names, but we have thought about each one and the nicknames and middle names that go along with each one.



In other news, I told another friend, Adrianne, yesterday. She's a colleague from the Counseling Center and has triplets (via Invitro) that just turned two and a three-month old (natural). We've talked a lot about pregnancy, babies, and the process--truly it's amazing that the human race has survived to date.

It's nice to have a couple girl friends to confide in and send funny texts about nausea and the like… 

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Tinted or Tainted


Each of us views the world through a different set of lenses. Our gender, religion, ethnicity, and nationality are all lenses. And, alongside, our experiences craft lenses that either tint or taint our views of the world.

I wrote this post a couple of years ago, and I recognize that as one who has not struggled with infertility, my thoughts then and/or now might be misunderstood or brushed aside.

While my experience with infertility is only from secondary, anecdotal sources, I have enough information to draw two sociological conclusions:  Sometimes, when we (i.e., society) are un-sensitive (not to be confused with in-sensitive) to a certain topic, we alienate others. Sometimes, when we (i.e., society) are sensitive to a certain topic, we alienate others. 

This is especially true with infertility.

Referring back to my June 2011 post, that positive cousin of Ryan's has since seen her promise come to fruition through adoption. Likewise I have met (or know) many more couples who have adopted or conceived after long battles with infertility. On the other hand, I have seen some couples undergo excruciating suffering (physically, mentally, emotionally) as they have lost child after child. 

I may never know their pain directly, but do I know that through the Atonement all that is unfair in the world will be made right in Christ Jesus. 

So, next time someone says, "let's kick all the pregnant ladies" or something about a "malicious, April Fool's pregnancy joke" or announces that they're pregnant, or mentions the loss of a pregnancy, realize that regardless of what anyone ever says, you will view the world through a set of lenses. 

The choice is yours however as to whether they're tinted or tainted

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Introducing Gillian Adele!

She's here! She's finally here!

Over that past 36 hours I have been dying to be in DC.

But, last night I went to sleep full of excitement knowing that this baby was on her way. But I continued waiting, wondering, praying, hoping...

Then this morning I saw this on my night stand...


Finally! 

So, without further adieu, we are so excited and thrilled to congratulate our good friends Erin and Mark (!) and to introduce:


Gillian Adele - 7 lbs 4 oz, 20.5 inches - Born 1:35 am

We love her already! (And we are definitely itching to get back to Washington to hold her ASAP.)


Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Due January 2013

Ladies and gentlemen, I have been dying to make this public.

But alas, as it was not my good news to share, so I had to wait.

Until now!

Remember these beautiful people?


And their beautiful wedding last November? 


They are expecting! 

Baby is due in January 2013. 

And we simply can. not. wait. 

Of course a trip back East must be in order. 

(And of course they think that Ryan for a boy or McKenzie/Adrielle for a girl would be perfect...)

Erin told me a few months ago by spilling that "What to Expect When You're Expecting" was on her nightstand. 

(I screamed in delight and picked up the phone to call her.)

Congratulations you two! We are so excited for you!

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Thoughts On Our Time - Revisited

About six months ago, I wrote these thoughts. At the time I was trying so hard to express gratitude for modern medicine rather than comment on the stupidity of some because of their disregard for common sense, doctors, and the advancements in modern medicine. So, here's my take...

When Ryan and I got married, my freshman roommate and her husband had just had their first child. She had tried a home birth and it didn't go as well as she had hoped. She realized the importance of having emergency medical attention and made it a point to get to a hospital. (With her second child she opted to go to the hospital first thing.)

When I heard about home birth for the first time I thought it was crazy. But, having never gone through pregnancy or labor myself, it would have been naive for me to fully form an opinion.

Then again in graduate school I knew women who had chosen home births, midwives, and doulas and again, I thought they were crazy. I swear their births lasted longer. A lot longer--48 hours?! But again, having never gone through labor (I was pregnant at the time) myself, it would have been naive for me to fully form an opinion.

However, after my cousin died in 2009 because of complications with childbirth and my own personal labor with Adrielle, I formed a very adamant opinion on childbirth (Adi was born after 19 hours of labor. I was stalled at 9cm for hours with an intense urge to push and we almost had to do a c-section because of severe tachycardia. Do you know what can happen if you push when you're not fully dilated? Do you know what can happen if your baby's heart rate stays elevated?)

So, very adamant opinion...

Babies should be born in a hospital. Ugh. Why do so many women think that having their baby at home with a midwife is a good idea?! It simply dumbfounds me.

I am not saying a midwife is a bad idea. I had a midwife. But, I also had a doctor.

I am not saying everyone should have an epidural, spinal block, etc. I am saying that women should think about the safety of themselves and their unborn children.

Do those women who choose to "birth at home" or in a "birthing center" realize the inherent risk?

It honestly makes me so angry when people say that the odds of something happening are low! I know people, a lot of people who have had serious complications with labor.

For example, a colleague of mine just returned from visiting her daughter. Her daughter was in labor at home (contractions 2 minutes apart) with a midwife for 2 days before they rushed her to the hospital for an emergency c-section.

Guess what? Her baby was 10 lbs 2 oz.

Guess what? Complications arise after 24 hours.

Guess what? In a hospital, doctors analyze the risk posed to both mother and baby. (In this case, I presume a doctor would have been worried about a baby under that kind of stress for 2 days and performed a c-section after about 12 hours.)

*Update: 12 hours after I posted, a friend of mine posted her second son's birth story a few weeks ago.

If the above doesn't relay my point, here is what my friend said in her post "Miraculous" about her labor:

"I thought things [with delivery] were going quite well compared to [my first son's] delivery, but I was apparently mistaken. The last few minutes before [he] was born were a blur of doctors shouting things I didn't understand, specialists pouring into our room, nurses pushing with all their weight on my abdomen, and [my husband] being asked to leave. We had what I later learned was a severe shoulder dystocia (where baby's head delivers but the shoulders get stuck), which can lead to palsy, brain damage, or death in babies. [Our little boy] came out bruised and not breathing, but after being whisked away for a few hours, he was all right!"

Guess what? Her baby was 9 lbs 1 oz.

Guess what? Complications with delivery can arise even after a steady, uncomplicated labor.

Guess what? Death in babies and mother's occurs.



This is my opinion. I know that agency is an inherent gift of this life and that women can choose how to go through labor. But, like I said previously women should think about the safety of themselves and their unborn child. Wouldn't you want to know that a pediatrician, specialist, surgeon, or anesthesiologist were there--heaven forbid--something were to happen?

I am truly grateful for modern medicine. It truly is miraculous and I am grateful that I am fortunate enough to live in a time in which we know so much about medicine and the human body.

Oh, and one final rant. Personally, I am quite irritated with the 'trends' in birthing. It is a contraction for goodness sake, call it what it is.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

525,600 Minutes Ago...

 (Technically it would be 525,780 minutes at this exact moment, but I liked the catchy title.) 

...TODAY

Our little girl, Adrielle Renée made her debut.

She was two days late, got cold feet, and weighed over 9 lbs, but she was so worth the wait!

Don't you think so? 



"I love cake!" "Can everyday be my 1st birthday?"

More to come on her first birthday party, but here's a teaser! 

Saturday, March 6, 2010

First Came Love, Then Came Marriage, Then Came Adi in a Baby Carriage! - The Birth Story

*Disclaimer - Ryan and I view our blog as a sort of personal (yet public) journal. While I am not sharing very personal details, this may be more than you want to read. Please do so at your discretion.


On Thursday, February 11th, 2010, I was in the process of finishing an important paper for my Strategic Leadership class late at night--around 11:50pm, and I had a contraction. I ignored it for the most part because two days before (Tuesday) the OB nurse had stripped my membranes to try and promote natural labor (I was scheduled to go in for an induction at 6pm on Friday, February 12th) and I had been having sporadic contractions for a couple of days.

After finishing our papers, we essentially said goodnight and went to sleep where we had been writing--the queen bed. The only difference this time was that lone contraction turned into another contraction. I must have just fallen asleep when I was awoken by another contraction. Still, I ignored it. Again, I fell asleep, but again I was awoken by another contraction. After about four contractions Ryan and I tried to get comfortable in the other room. I didn't want to bother Ryan, so we went to bed in the king bed.

After being restless for the next hour and becoming increasingly sleep deprived and frustrated because of five or six more contractions, I called the University of Utah hospital at 2am. I told them what was happening, but that I wanted to make sure this was "it" before we drove up to Salt Lake. They already had my chart ready to go because I was scheduled for the induction that night. The nurse mentioned that because I was over 40 weeks they were more relaxed on when they would admit me, but said I should try and relax to see if they would go away.

Well, 45 minutes later, after the contractions continued and got closer and closer together, I called the hospital back. I told them the contractions were getting closer together, so they told me to come up and that they would admit me. So, at 2:45am, Ryan and I started to get things ready to go. I had had my 'nesting' period the day before, so everything was ready to go except a few things like toothpaste and a toothbrush.

At 3:45am we headed out the door. We stopped to get gas, and I called my parents. No answer. Then, about five seconds later they called back. I told my mom that it was baby time! While we were at the gas station I had had a contraction and my mom became concerned because I wasn't breathing well. She 'got in my face' (over the phone) if you will and told me to breath "he, he, he, whoooo - BREATH" "he, he, he, whooooo - BREATH". So, I started to breath, and my mom stayed on the phone to coach me.

We hopped on deserted I-15 and made it to the hospital at 4:45am. On the way up, my mom and I had been talking. I said that I was hoping to be 4 cm when I got to the hospital. She said not to count on it and also had mentioned that I should ask about getting an epidural as soon as I got there to find out how long I might have to wait...

We walked into the hospital amid contractions and went to labor and delivery. We went to OB Triage and when they asked what I needed I said, "I'm pretty sure I'm in labor". Well, sure enough... I WAS! And the contractions were becoming more and more intense. It was so incredibly surreal! I asked about the epidural and asked that I be put on the list to ensure that I could get it before things became too unbearable. I asked for some cranberry juice for a little sugar (I hadn't eaten in hours), but...

...when they checked me for the first time, I was 3.5 cm and 90% effaced! I was good to go! They were confident that I would progress, so started the process of getting me into a room. The contractions were getting stronger, and it was becoming pretty difficult. I started to get the shakes pretty bad, but a nurse in labor and delivery helped me with another breathing pattern that steadied my body. I again asked for some cranberry juice, but the nurse seemed a little hesitant at my request because right around that time (6am), heaven was sent in the form of the anesthesiologist!

He came in and asked if I wanted to know the risks and benefits of an epidural and I said "nope". I knew that I wanted the drugs. :) I was scared that I might move too much during contractions or that shakes might come back, but Ryan and the nurse coached me through everything. I asked the anesthesiologist how long it would take and he said it could take up to 20 minutes to get in and then another 20 minutes for it to kick in. 40 minutes?! I was a little panicked at that because I didn't think I could go another 40 minutes and because I dreaded needles... however, this time I didn't even mind the needle and with me, the effects of the drugs were immediate. I was calm, my body was relaxed, and I was comfortable.

You know, I didn't know a lot about what having an epidural would entail... I had thought that I could have clear liquid, but NO. No liquid. WHAT?! No cranberry juice! I'd been waiting two hours for my cranberry juice! Ugh. But, after getting the epidural, I was able to relax. I thought that an epidural would essentially paralyze me from the waist down, but I was pleasantly surprised that I could feel and move my legs. It was incredible because while I could feel everything, the epidural "took the edge off". It did make me slightly nauseous, so they gave me some anti-nausea medicine that worked like a charm.



Around 7am or 8am, my wonderful mother-in-law came to the hospital to keep us company and snapped this camera-phone picture (granted, this is after a whole night without sleep)...

(I posted this on facebook with the caption: " 8 hours into labor and things are going well... God bless whoever invited the epidural. :)")

We killed the next couple of hours by chatting, calling people, and watching the Lion King (on VHS I might add). Loved it. :)

After a few hours (around 10am), the nurses came to check on my progress, and I was 4 cm and 100% effaced - wow! At that point, the doctor came and broke my water to help the progress along, and we were on our way.

For the next few hours, the epidural was working well, but at noon we heard a beeping noise, and I called a nurse to ask what it was. She seemed a little irritated because the noise was the epidural--I had used a whole one! Oh my goodness. I was slightly embarrassed, and when the anesthesiologist came in to refill it, I asked if I was using it excessively. She then showed me a bag--they were tiny, and she told me not to worry. She also said that there was a special limit that prevented patients from killing themselves--it would only release a dose every 10 minutes regardless of how often I pushed the button. So, I didn't feel too embarrassed.

I think the epidural wore off a bit between the time that we heard the beeping and the anesthesiologist arrived because I started to have to work through contractions, but by noon I was at 6 cm!

One of my favorite random memories is that around 12:30, I got a phone call from a 202 area code. I was certain it was my friend Erin calling from work (I didn't have her work number programed in my phone), but when I answered, I knew it wasn't because the person on the other end asked "Is McKenzie there." Uh oh, who was it... Well, it turns out it was a woman from the Partnership for Public Service calling to schedule an interview for a job to which I had applied... hum. I said something to the effect of "I'm in labor, do you mind if I call you back in a few hours?" She was slightly confused so I said something like "I'm having my baby, I'll need to call you back." :) She apologized and congratulated me and then said that she would e-mail me. Priceless. (And if I get that job, it would go down in the history books as family folklore.) :)

After the phone call things started getting more rough. The nurses checked my progress at around 1pm, and I was at 9 cm! Wow! I thought by 3pm we'd certainly have ourselves a baby! Whoot, whoot, right? Wrong. There was lip of the cervix that didn't want to budge, and around this time I had the most intense pushing pressure. When contractions would come it wouldn't hurt and I couldn't feel it it my uterus, but I had to push! The only problem was that at 9 cm, I couldn't push because it would tear the cervix and require major reconstructive surgery. So, I called the nurse a few times to tell her that the sensation was really strong, and finally (probably when I started screaming) she realized that we needed to do something and called the head of anesthesiology.


Somewhere during this pushing sensation, a new MD came on call, Dr. Metts. She must have come in during a contraction where I was probably screaming and working through the contraction because she said "I'm impressed! The old fashioned way without drugs!" And I said I kind of laughed and said, "No, I've got the drugs, they're just not dulling the pushing sensation!" I think she might have been surprised because from what it appeared, I didn't have any drugs, I just needed something stronger.

The head of the anesthesiology department finally came, and told me that he was going to give me a more local anesthetic, and that it should help. He told me it was like novocain that the dentist gives you, this time it was lidocain. :)

Let's just say I love the medical field and research and development, because whoever came up with lidocain should be sainted. After getting the lidocain around 1pm, I was able to sleep for an hour or so.


When I work up however, I was still stalled at 9 cm, and I had developed a low-grade fever (a sign of infection). So, they started me on antibiotics and explained that a special pediatrician team would be there for the delivery to ensure that the baby was safe. At the same time, the doctor came in. She was a little concerned that the baby wasn't showing accelerations, so she wanted me to change positions. She also wanted to talk to me about a possible C-section, and I became slightly hysterical after I stated my absolute opposition to being put under. She helped calm me a little as she explained my personal situation and that there are specific reasons for every single thing they do. It helped me calm down a little, but I was becoming a little panicky because I didn't want the last 14 hours to be for nothing, and I started dying of thirst. But, I was intent on trying to have that baby naturally.

So, when intense pushing pains came again, I tried with all my might to relax and breath through the contractions so that my body could progress to the essential 10 cm. The sensations because overbearing again and the anesthesiologist gave me a second dose of lidocain. I still had to work through the contractions until the medicine kicked in, and when I could finally relax, the nurse said that I should change positions to try and get the cervix to budge. I moved and laid on my right side for about 30 minutes to an hour, and around 6pm, the nurse checked my progress, and I was finally at 10 cm!!

She told the doctor (who at this point was a different southern gentleman) and he said that we were going to start pushing. Wait, what!? I asked if we could wait a half an hour or so, so that I could have the pushing sensation come back, but he said, "no, we need to push". (Because they had broken my water and because of the infection, they wanted to get the baby out as soon as possible.) The doctor said he would be back and instructed the nurses to give me a pushing lesson.

So, around 6pm, I started pushing with the contractions. (Big breath, hold breath for 10 seconds while pushing, break/breath, hold breath for 10 seconds while pushing, break/breath, hold breath for 10 seconds while pushing, rest.) At first, I didn't know when the contractions were coming, but within a few minutes, I was telling the nurses that it was time to push! In between the sets I would hyperventilate, but Ryan was right there helping me along. (I really had such a great support system there! Jennifer was there coaxing me along, Ryan was helping me breath, and Erin--God bless Erin--was giving me ice chips in between contractions/pushing. Let me just tell you that the thirst that I had was agonizing, and by the end here, I was literally begging for water. Ice chips just were not cutting it.

As time went by, I could feel more and more clearly when to push. The nurses had sometimes coaxed me into a fourth push in some sets, and I could tell that we were progressing. The doctor kept telling me that we were trying to rock the baby into position and that each contraction would help the baby engage into the pelvis--wow, was this for real!? In between a contraction (while hyperventilating) I recognized some commotion and asked (I was probably quite loopy) how close we were. Jennifer said that the doctors were arriving and that we were almost there. This knowledge gave me a little bit of adrenaline. For a lot of the pushing I was closing my eyes, but when I did open them, I noticed that there were A LOT of people in the room and that the doctors were not only in scrubs now, but had on robes, gloves, and masks! Oh my goodness, I could tell (and could feel) that she was almost here!

After about an hour of pushing, I was pushing during one contraction. First push, second, third, and I knew that if I went for the 4th push, that Adrielle would be born. Sure enough, after 18 hours of labor and an hour of pushing, Adrielle Renee was born at 7:34pm on February 12, 2010!

They whisked Adi off to the pediatricians on the other side of the room, and Ryan and Jennifer went with her. The next contraction the doctor told me to push a little for the placenta, and then began the recovery process. The epidural had worn off a little too much, because during labor, I suffered a 3rd degree tear, and when they started stitching, I could essentially feel everything. They sent for the anesthesiologist one final time and he dulled the pain so that they could work. My sister-in-law, Erin, stayed with me the whole time and held my hand while they worked, she'll never know how much that meant to me--especially when she made the nurses get me cranberry juice, water, and apple juice minutes after Adi was born. I couldn't have imagined being alone right then while Ryan was with the baby.

At one point, the doctor brought me sweet Adi, and I held her for a few seconds, but because I could feel the stitching, I didn't hold her for long.

After what seemed like an eternity, the doctors finished, and the nurses helped me from the bed to a wheelchair to my recovery room. I had been in the room about five minutes when my family and Ryan's family arrived. My mom and Ryan were in the nursery with Adrielle as she underwent tests and received an IV for antibiotics.

Finally, Ryan brought in little (well, not so little) Adi. She had a conehead because the cervix had been stuck at 9 cm for so long, but she was absolutely perfect! The pictures below are when the family saw her for the first time, and the first time that I found out she weighed 9 lbs 1 oz! (She looks bigger than she was because she was swollen, but has since gone down to reveal our beautiful little baby!)




We feel blessed to have her sweet spirit in our home, and grateful that Heavenly Father trusted us enough to send her to us. We love you Adrielle!

Monday, March 1, 2010

"Why Do You Think I Agreed To This?"

This past summer, I started my internship 3 weeks earlier than Ryan did. During that time, he got to know my awesome cousin, Shelly, and her 5 kids while helping them out on the farm. :) Ryan is a very hard worker, and became an expert and spreading wood chips (heavy-duty East Coast mulch) with the tractor.

When Ryan would come in for a break, lunch, or a drink, he would reach for Shelly's awesome hospital mug that she'd received 10 years earlier at the birth of her son at the Utah Valley Regional Center in Provo, Utah. He became addicted to the 32 oz mug, and soon it was his constant companion.

Because I wasn't delivering in Provo, a conversation about the mug came up. I mentioned that I didn't know if the U gave out mugs. Ryan's response: "What?" "Why do you think I agreed to this?" Ha. That's my Ryan.

After delivering Adrielle, the nurses and my sister-in-law, Erin escorted me to my room. Everyone else had gone with the baby to the nursery. When I got into the room, the first thing I noticed was a beautiful, 32 oz mug on the hospital table. :) Ryan is one lucky boy.

Before we left the hospital, we took a few snap shots of Ryan with his new companion (which has actually ended up being my new companion).

Ryan in his BYU PE shirt and a U of U Mug...
Gotta Love This Boy!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Pregnancy Stats

So, I went for my 2-week check up this morning, and thought that I would post about my stats for posterity's sake. :)

Found out I was pregnant: June 14th, 2009
Felt the baby move the first time: 22 weeks pregnant
Total time pregnant: 40 weeks, 2 days
Total weight gained: 42 lbs
Went into labor: On Thursday, February 11th/Friday, February 12th (midnight-ish)
Time in labor: 19 hours
Time spent pushing: 1 hour
Baby born: 7:34pm, Friday, February 12th
Baby's weight/height: 9 lbs, 1 oz, 22 inches


Here's the greatest part though...


...today at my 2 week checkup (11 days post-partum), I had lost 34 lbs! I only have 8 more lbs and I will be back to my pre-pregnancy weight (which was actually low because I had started running this summer in Washington!). It's crazy. Now, I just need to eat healthy, keep nursing, and exercise with my sweetheart so we can support each other!

Friday, February 19, 2010

The Irony :)

I love how last Thursday night (February 11th) around 11:50pm as I was finishing my paper for my Strategic Leadership class, I had one lone contraction. Just one. I'd been having them during the week, and thought it was nothing.

After the paper, I wrote "Oi! Contractions while writing Dr. Hart's paper... glad that is finished, although I have lost all ability to concentrate... now we'll see if baby will let me go visiting teaching and to the lunch tomorrow..." as my Facebook status at 12:05am and additionally this blog post at 12:07am.

What really happened? That one lone contraction from 11:50pm that I thought was nothing was Labor!? and ironically we ended up heading to the hospital just hours after I wrote those posts because contractions had started up, continued to come, and gradually grown closer together. :)

Now, a week later (has it already been a week?) I love looking back on those two midnight posts... they make me smile.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Cold Feet

Baby Adi is getting cold feet. We keep promising her that it's fun out here and that we're really not too bad. So far she's doing well, they are giving Kenz potossin and other drugs to help her relax. She's been at a 9 for the past few hours, almost 10 - so no pushing yet.

Update...

So, this is McKenzie. It is 11 hours into labor and 6.5 hours after arriving at the hospital...God bless the man/woman who invented the epidural. I've finally been able to sleep and get some rest.

As of now, it will be a while, but with an epidural, labor doesn't seem so bad--at least not yet. The first six hours were hard, but I feel a great deal of satisfaction that I was able to go that long, andI can imagine that the last part is the hardest. (All I know is that this stinkin' IV is by far the worst pain.)

At this point, the doctor said that the baby is engaged to a 0, so she has to get to a +3 and then it really is baby time! Sometime this afternoon we'll be holding our darling, beautiful, little girl! Oh I can't wait.

And, to top it off... Adriel is coming from Washington tonight--what a serendipitous occasion that she'll be here to meet her namesake.

More updates to come...

Sleepless Night #1

Last night as we finished and submitted our papers for Management Strategy, I went to my Facebook status and publicly declared that Baby Adi could come anytime she wanted.


That was around 11:50 - 12:00 p.m. While I was updating, baby decided she wanted to come. So, we stuck around at home for a few hours to make sure it was for real...it was. We got everything in the car, and left around 3:30 a.m. for the hospital. By the time we got here, Kenz was dilated 3.5 cm and 90% effaced. She was a trooper and endured 6 hours of labor before she opted for an epidural.


Here we are after 8 hours of labor and ZERO sleep. Sleepless night #1. It looks like Adi is doing a good job of preparing us for first-time parenthood.

Today's To Do List

Today's (February 12th - as of 12:08am) To Do List consists of:

1. Go visiting teaching (10am)
2. Attend the Accreditation Luncheon (12pm)
3. Have Baby (6pm)

What a day. :)

Lies.

I never knew a blog could lie... that was until today...


Adrielle is definitely not 2 days old... she's still nice and cosy inside.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

One Lucky Girl

I am one lucky girl. Tuesday I had a doctor's appointment, and let's just say the tried to 'help' the labor process along.

Sure enough, yesterday morning I started having sporadic contractions that have continued into today.

The reason I say I am a lucky girl you ask? Well, yesterday morning when I woke up with contractions I realized that there was so much to do before Adrielle's arrival.

Often, I can't sleep in the mornings and wake up and take a bath for a little while until Ryan wakes up. Yesterday, I woke up and quietly yet frantically went about getting to my to do list (a friend told me this was considered 'nesting'). Yesterday, however, Ryan woke up a few minutes later and when I explained what I was doing, he helped me get so many things done! He was (and always is) wonderful and even did some of the things on my to do list that would be difficult to do myself (such as clean the bathroom floor).

Then, there was this morning. I have been restless lately, so I have encouraged Ryan to sleep in the guest room next door so he can get more sleep. Last night when we went to bed we thought we might have the official trip to the hospital in the middle of the night, so we had talked about it and done a few more things.

In the middle of the night, I woke up with a really strong contraction. As I laid in bed, wanting to sit up, but essentially paralyzed and unable to do so, I was conscious enough to know that I needed to breathe. I started breathing very deliberately in and out to try and calm down. A few minutes later, my sweet Ryan came in from the other room. He had heard my labored breathing and had come to rescue me from my temporary paralysis. It was very reassuring, and it made me realize that despite the insecurity and anxiety I have about labor and delivery, Ryan will be there comforting me, every step of the way.

Ryan is one of those men that seem surreal to most women. He is practically perfect in every way, and I am the luckiest girl to have him in my life. He is my perfect match. I love you, sweetheart!

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Project Car Seat Canopy

Again, I have to compliment my mom--she's an amazing seamstress (as is my amazing mother-in-law, Jennifer). They have both been so helpful in getting ready for our little arrival!

A few weeks ago, Jennifer helped me pick out this pretty fabric...

And last week, my mom helped me sew (well, mostly I watched in awe) Adi's car seat canopy...

She even managed to make a button hole when we realized the final product left no room for ducky...

Thanks Mom and Jennifer! Baby Adi is going to be one lucky (and spoiled) little girl!

"Baby Bump" - 39 Weeks!

So... tomorrow is the big due date, and no baby! Oh well, I'm not complaining. My To-Do list is 1,000 items long and Ryan and I both have big projects and aspirations this week in school. So we're hoping little Adi will hold off until Friday when I'm induced!

Anyway, for some fun updates here is the "Baby Bump" at 39 weeks! (And yes, I feel like a whale!)


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